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Because I Said So

I don’t care if Beyonce wears pasties and a g-string with a “cum dumpster” tattoo inked on her lower back. If she believes in feminism, then she’s a feminist.beyonce voters

A person is not required to be angry, mustached, and fully clothed to support gender equality. A feminist can flaunt her sexuality in a bejeweled leotard if she wants to. Beyonce has sung that she just wants to be “the kind of girl you like.” But she’s also chanted, “Who run the world? Girls!” and “I’m a survivor!”

I may ask my husband to pull my hair, I may text him a sexy picture that another woman may find degrading. I might flirt with a stranger. But I am much more than my sexuality. I am a feminist. I am a mother of three daughters. I want my girls to grow up, go to school, get jobs, and be paid as much as their male counterparts. I want all women to make their own reproductive choices.

I like oral sex, I boycotted Hobby Lobby. I wear a short skirt, I love Hilary Clinton. I talk about my sexuality, I am a feminist. I twerk on a stage. I am still a fucking feminist.

A feminist doesn’t tell another woman what to want, who do be, how to behave herself. If you try to tell me that I can’t be all these things that I am, then you are not a feminist.

7 thoughts on “Because I Said So

  1. Nah. You can call yourself whatever you want, but if you don’t do something that promotes a better situation between the sexes, ya ain’t a feminist. Wearing a pushup bra (which is fine by me, ladies) and calling yourself a feminist doesn’t mean anything, other than you’re calling yourself a feminist and thinking that it’s true because Victoria gave a feminine part of your body a nice lift. Telling me where you stand on Plan B means a whole lot more.

    • Hi Richard, thank you for your comments!
      A feminist supports feminism. So if you call yourself a feminist, you’re communicating that you support feminism. I think we should take a feminist at her word, rather than scrutinizing the way she chooses to express her own sexuality.
      At the VMA’s, Beyonce didn’t say she was a feminist because she was wearing a Victoria’s Secret bra (and BTW, Beyonce’s boobs are way too valuable to have been in a lowly Victoria’s Secret bra. Her bodysuit was custom Tom Ford).
      Instead, a screen behind her flashed excerpts of a poem by Nigerian author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. The screen read, “We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller, We say to girls, ‘You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you will threaten the man.” Her performance was inspiring for me and probably a lot of other women and girls.
      It makes me sad to hear someone mansplain that Beyonce isn’t a good feminist because of how her boobs are presented. You are totally overlooking her message.

      • I wasn’t referring to Beyonce at all. What I object to is the Humpty Dumpty notion that you can make words mean what you want them to. And your coinage “mansplain” is dismissing an argument by dismissing the arguer. It’s your blog, but I’d lose the word–it’s polemical without making a case.

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